Dating Body Language - Is It Really Important?

If you think that dating is all about your choice of words, then think again. When it comes to dating, your body language is much more important than what you say. Your dating body language is important because it tells your date a lot about you in a matter of seconds. This can either make your date successful or not.

The reason why the body language is so powerful is because it speaks directly to the subconscious mind. And it is not a match against verbal communication. For example, if you say you are excited about something and yet you fold your arms, your date translates that to mean the opposite of what you said. On the other hand, if you use the wrong words, you still have a chance to win your date over if you 'speak' the right dating body language.

You could also create attraction instantly by 'speaking' the right body language. This is important. On the other hand, if not 'spoken' right the very first time, you would not only turn off a date, but you would never be given a second chance. Sorry if I may sound harsh. But whether I'm harsh or not, it is the truth and if you want to success with your dates, you must learn to use the dating body language properly.

Below, I have outlines 5 dating body language signals that will win you dates if properly applied:

1. Good eye contact is essential. When people look away when they or others are talking, it is because of a lack of interest or a feeling of discomfort. If you look away when your date is talking, she interprets that to mean that you are experiencing feelings of tension. Conversely, when you have difficulty making eye contact, your body language communicates insincerity. To avoid communicating these negative messages, maintain good eye contact both when you talk and when you listen.

2. Where possible, let your body speak. When you gesture, do so slowly. Maintain physical contact, smile and wink. Don't overdo it.

3. Do not fold your arms tightly as if you are feeling uncomfortable. That would translate to insecurity in your date's mind. Lay your hands open to your date. Guys should spread their legs and take up as much space as necessary.

4. Speak slowly and calmly. Do not rush your words. That shows that you are secure and confident. When men speak slowly and confidently, they create an instant attraction to women.

5. Keep on smiling. Only tensed people smiling continually, so keeping your smile alive does not mean smiling at every word uttered. Smile only when it is necessary to do so. Do not break the eye contact when smiling. A lively smile crosses all cultural boundaries and it is contagious.

But what if you can't use these dating body language habits effectively? Practice is the key. Go out more. Learn the language like you learn habits. Meet more singles and put into practice what you have learned. Do not expect an automatic makeover. This is because your present body language habits were acquired over a long period. So it would take a while to replace the negative habits with positive ones. Constant practice will help reduce the timeframe needed to learn to 'speak' a better dating body language.