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Posted on October 11, 2009 by Jane Thomas | Posted under Sexuality
Female sexuality
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Female orgasm, on the other hand, is not required for a woman to conceive. As much as we might hope for the fantasy of women who reach orgasm as easily as men even the wonders of modern contraception cannot change women's sexuality from what Nature intended it to be. My discussion of female sexuality covers the following: Sexual desire: women's lower sex drive (orgasm is an optional pleasure not a need) means that they have a much more conscious choice over exploring eroticism. Female masturbation: since many women never discover masturbation (and therefore orgasm) they often place an emotional interpretation on their experiences of sex. Sexual arousal: our understanding of women's experience of sexual arousal and how they reach orgasm is often obscured by what we would like it to be - fantasy rather than reality. "men and women are manifestly not the same. And nor are their responses to one another." (p6 Bluffer's Guide to Men 1998) Women's sexual arousal is not as obvious as men's As our bodies develop differently through puberty, young men and women become aware of themselves as very different sexual beings. When a boy reaches puberty his penis increases in size and he experiences erections. Boys start having erections as early as 8 or 9. Later through trial and error, they discover ejaculation. By the age of 12 or 13, most boys have learnt how to enjoy their own sexual arousal and how to reach orgasm through masturbation. There is no similar natural trigger for a girl to focus on her genitals or on her sexual arousal. When girls reach puberty they get breasts and periods: developments that focus their attention on the goals of family and relationships. These body changes are linked to a woman's child-bearing role and many people define female sexuality purely in terms of this reproductive capacity. Unlike boys, girls do not experience spontaneous arousal and so they have no reason to investigate how their genitals might respond to stimulation. A girl has to be willing to explore eroticism and consciously develop her fantasies in order to discover how her sexual arousal works. Men's sexual arousal is usually easy whereas women's sexual arousal and orgasm is not automatic so unsurprisingly we all tend to find it easier to focus on male sexual arousal during sex. So while most young men are quite naturally motivated to explore their own sexual arousal and to reach orgasm through an appreciation of eroticism and genital stimulation, most young women are, just as naturally, more focused on exploring their emotions and relationships with others. As a consequence, men and women approach sex from very different perspectives. If a couple has some understanding of the different rewards that men and women obtain from sex, they can make sure that there is a balance of giving and receiving in their sex life. "While women read romantic novels, men read pornography. While romance packages sex with love, fidelity and marriage, pornography packages sex with violence, possession and promiscuity. This means that women and men often have very different views of sex and what it is all about." (p28 Woman's Experience of Sex 1983) About The Author: Jane Thomas: Author http://WaysWomenOrgasm.org and http://Nosper.com. Ways Women Orgasm aims to inform and reassure women of all ages: both the site content and pictures are completely clean. The discussion is based on honesty not sexual ego and covers: sex drive, the role of fantasy and why orgasm from masturbation may always be different to orgasm from penetration. |
Tags: FEMALE SEXUALITY, SEXUAL AROUSAL, REACH ORGASM, EROTICISM
