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Posted on June 28, 2009 by Ted Norton | Posted under Sexuality
Freeing the Female Orgasm - Best Advice
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Why is it then that so many girls are pissed off instead of satisfied? Why is it that for so many loving couples, the female orgasm remains a slippery dream ; one in which she's perhaps become resigned to sex that's pleasurable but not really gratifying, or much worse, faking it to salvage her partner's ego. If it is truly bad perhaps she fakes orgasm simply to get the sexual tribulation over with! Or he sadly wonders : What's wrong with me? Why can't I make her come despite stiff fingers and painful tongue? His sexual pride is hurt, and he anonymously feels less of a person believing he has failed her. The initial step on the path to freeing a girl's orgasm is for both men to realise that men do not give girls orgasms. Girls permit themselves to have orgasms. Regardless of popular belief, irrespective of how good a lover you may be, unless your better half can give herself up to the delights of her body, she will not have orgasms. This awareness alone can open the door to girls becoming orgasmic. It takes the pressure to "perform" off men, and it frees girls to take responsibility for their own sexual fulfillment. This is imperative. If your girl is blaming you, and you can also be blaming yourself for her not having orgasms, it is quite possible, even likely, that you are both looking in the wrong place to clear up the issue. Mind you, an amateur, inconsiderate, or insensitive male lover can be a genuine problem, and at the very least is definitely a lifeless bore. And to claim that a girl is in charge of her own sexual accomplishment does not mean you revert to a slam-bam-thank-you-ma'am approach to sex and let her fend for herself. Of course, the more skilled and conscientious a lover is the more pleasure he himself receives, and though you can not give her an orgasm you certainly can help her to have one, or perhaps tons of them. So even though it's not totally up to you, there is a thing you can do to help. The biggest barrier to orgasm for women is mental distraction - thoughts that float into her mind, catching her in her head, and taking her away from what's occurring in her body. As quickly as she starts thinking, she is out of the instant and will lose touch with her senses and her pleasure. Some of these thoughts may trigger feelings of shame or guilt about experiencing sexual pleasure, for regardless of how liberated our angles toward sex have become, there yet exists the perception that "good" girls don't! Even today girls are divided into classes of "virgin" or "whore". Those who engage lustily in the pleasures of the body are somehow morally dubious. You can help your delectable partner move beyond these pleasure stifling perspectives by letting her know how much you respect, admire and cherish her fully female sensuous self. Let her know usually particularly when you're making love, that it totally turns you on to see her set free the keen side of her nature. About The Author: Ted Norton runs an online sex toys web site which offers high quality sex toys at low prices. Subscribe to his sex toys blog to recieve weekly special offers on the vast range of products stocked his store. |
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