Good Marriage Advice Can Prevent Good Divorce Questions

My daughterand I were walking on the beach today (sorry to you folks living in the SnowBelt) when we saw an elderly couple walking towards us hand in hand. I almosttold my daughter that they must have read my Lessons For A Happy Marriage butit would not have been true. There are people who "get it" and livetheir lives in marital bliss; just not many from our part of the world. Thecouple coming toward us was clearly from Asia. In other cultures where marriageis not romanticized or psychoanalyzed there is a reliance on tradition thatobviously works. In our society the rules for a good marriage are hardlyanywhere to be found. Our culture is pretty mixed up. On one hand everyoneknows the value of family, yet we seem to focus our efforts on individualism,creating quite a dilemma.

The Universal Principles for a Happy Marriage are Simple

Who is acandidate for a happy marriage? Isn't that a stupid question? It's like askingwho is a candidate for becoming part of a family. The only answer that makessense is: everyone! Then why do we have a divorce rate of around 60% and ahappy marriage rate of (I'm guessing here) 5 to 10%? It's because good marriage advice ishard to come by and good divorce questions areeasily answered. It should be the other way around!

When I began mymediation practice I wanted to be among those who made divorce a simpleprocess. But I discovered what I thought was amazing: nobody really wanted adivorce, they just didn't know what else to do. My clients were sufferingterribly and saw no way out. I made up my mind to get to the bottom of thisparadox and stepped back to see if I could help. I looked everywhere for theanswers and rejected the false cures proposed by western psychologists whopracticed marriage counseling. They didn't know any more than anyone else orthey would not have the same rate of divorce as everyone else.

When I thoughtI knew what would work I switched my practice altogether to saving marriages byteaching what I discovered. And guess what? It worked sofast and so completely that I had to warncouples the "new way" was real and not to doubt it, but enjoy it. Itold them it was like having a car with a stick shift, but never learning howto drive it. Then somebody shows them how to work the clutch and shifter, anddriving goes from total stress to as fun as can be.

A Happy Marriage Doesn't Take a PhD

All you need isthe information I have discovered; it isn't hard to understand and it is lesshard to implement; it's all very intuitive (and not like some computer programthat is described as intuitive!). My clients ranged from very simple folkreferred by the county to Hollywood big names who heard about my results. I amhappy to say even the stars were able to save their marriages with my lessons.

Don't put offyour happiness. My desire is to help out. I'm pretty sure you will not findfault with my Lessons For A HappyMarriage; you will find great relief. Go ahead, challenge me :)!