How Not To Get Over Someone

We’ve all been there, we’ve all gotten dumped. You’d think that after as many times as I’ve been dumped that I’d be a bit more smart about it, but no that’s not the case. I have played the fool over a man so many times that it is a bit pathetic – if we had cards to certify ourselves as being woman worthy, I’d probably have lost mine. Why you ask? Simply because I’ve done all the stupid things that we shouldn’t do when trying to get over a man. Hopefully, I can help you avoid the ways not to get over a man by describing my experiences below.

How many of us after breaking up with a man, want to pick up the phone and call him. Admit it, we’ve all felt that way. It’s a pretty natural way of feeling too. Here is this man that we felt extremely close to, and who do we want to call when we are in pain? Of course, the person closest to us. But, girl, remember who put you in this pain. He did. So do you really think he is the person you should be calling. Let’s face it, as much as we play it out in our dream world to the contrary, a man is not going to come running back to you because you call him in tears telling him how much you love him and that he can’t possibly end the relationship. Calling the man after he dumped you is going to get you nowhere, so don’t do it. Resist the urge, I know you can.

The next way not to get over your man is by looking him up on every internet site you know. This is called cyberstalking. Sure you man may be on Facebook, MySpace, or Yahoo Personals, but it is not your job to go check out his mood and status every five seconds. Yes, it is very tempting. Just as it is as tempting to create a fake dating profile on the dating site you see him on to see if you can lure him into a relationship with your fake profile person just to have contact with him. Yes, very tempting, but don’t do it. Cyberstalking your man is no way to get over him. You need to remove him from your friend and buddy lists and move on.

So, we’re not supposed to call him, we’re not supposed to stalk him, so let’s go shopping. Wrong! Sure, it’s a lot of fun to go out and purchase everything and anything after a break up. You think that buying that expensive suit or purse will make you feel better, and you may be partially right. However, those purchases are not going to mend your broken heart and a month from now when you get your credit card bill, you’re not going to be happy.
Shopping is just masking the pain and not an effective way to get over being dumped.

So, we’ve taken the retail shopping off the list as a cure, what about the pyromaniac tendencies. Once again, not a good way to get over someone. We’ve all been so angry that we want to rip up, tear up , shred, throw out, or burn every single item, picture, gift, or thing that man might have touched that is in our lives. Instead of being that dramatic, simply box up the old pictures and momentos, who knows they might come handy in the future, if say you get back together with the guy, and if you don’t throw them away when you aren’t filled with rage. In addition, that great Coach bag he bought you would look horrible in the trash and though it may hurt to look at it right now, a few months from now, it really won’t matter who gave it to you. So don’t go crazy and burn away, be practical and realistic because being a pyromaniac is not going to bring the guy back.

If you aren’t an angry pyromaniac, you are probably the delusional idiot that thinks that if you create a shrine to the person that that will help you get over them. I’m not sure about you, but if I walked into a potential new mates house and found a shrine of their ex, that would be my one way ticket out the door. Can we say psycho? You do not need to keep one of his shirts to sleep in or his pictures on your wall. You are not longer together, put them away and move on.

Break-ups and being dumped are hard, but we don’t need to make them any worse by falling in to the traps of things that won’t help us to get over someone. Learn from the past and this article and hopefully if there is another break up or dumping in your future it won’t be as bad. Don’t worry, girl, your man is out there so don’t waste your time not getting over Mr. Wrong.

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