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Posted on October 21, 2009 by Rita Desnoyers-Garcia | Posted under Inspirational
How to Access Abundance in Your Life
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Many people, women in particular, have difficulty accessing abundance for two basic yet easily remedied reasons: we often operate from our lack, and we have difficulty receiving what we need. Most of us - at least those raised by self-sacrificing, over achieving mothers - possess this deep-rooted, indelible idea that ‘it is better to give than to receive’. This sounds like the responsible and mature thing to say, especially when trying to persuade an uncooperative toddler to share his toys or a brooding teenager to relinquish the television remote; however, such a thought actually perpetuates scarcity. While this may continue to be the enduring and irrefutable family motto, the abundance principle operates under the slightly different adage of “the more you give, the more you receive”. The common factor is the giving, but the difference comes in the receiving. Constantly giving but never receiving results in weary, discouraged, burned out people. In a society that fosters self focus, and a culture that promotes the fear based hoarding of resources, many women have appointed themselves to champion the cause of self-sacrifice and selflessness. In many ways, we have been socialized to go above and beyond, and we believe that our worth is determined by putting our family before ourselves, our responsibilities before our health, and our ‘to do’ list before our own needs. We live under the constant belief that if we are not exhausted every minute of every day then we are not getting enough done. We never take the time to do the things we want to do because that would make us feel selfish and undermine our reputation as a good wife, mother, employee, or friend. We understand logically that we are not bottomless wells, yet we function day to day as if we will never run dry. We give from depleted resources which, while making us appear noble, actually drains our energy and diminishes our effectiveness. In order to access abundance, we must take the time to replenish and empower, but unfortunately, this is the point where that nefarious scarcity principle once again rears its ugly head. As super energized, working soccer moms - or an equivalent variant - we have little difficulty with the giving part, but we invariably struggle with the receiving. We have been taught to be strong and independent, and believe that accepting help or generosity is a sign of weakness. We deflect gifts of appreciation in preference of self-denial because we think there may not be enough to go around, and should a shortage arise, we don’t want our family to suffer for our selfishness. We may enjoy accolades from uninformed observers, but the truth of the matter is, receiving what others have to give actually cultivates abundance, while giving without receiving creates the lack that earmarks scarcity. It is the receiving that makes the giving possible, and accepting assistance, support, and encouragement will bring the freedom and joy indicative of true abundance. The key to accessing abundance is to learn to recognize the signs of low resources, realize that we can’t give to those we love if we have nothing left to give, accept the fact that we need to take a little time for ourselves, and understand that sometimes our greatest source of strength comes from the people around us. About The Author: Rita Desnoyers-Garcia has devoted over 20 years to helping women discover and reach their full potential through coaching, classes, and workshops. Her popular abundance course is available online at http://www.extraordinaryabundance.com and includes lessons and exercises on how to access abundance. |
Tags: SPIRITUAL ABUNDANCE, ABUNDANCE IS YOUR BIRTHRIGHT
