Marriage Counseling or Divorce Mediator

In order for me to make a veryimportant point I must ask you to pretend that you have absolutely no knowledgeof chickens or eggs. Maybe you can pretend you're from another planet orsomething. Now, let's imagine I put a scrambled egg in front of you. If youwere to see a scrambled egg but had no previous knowledge of what an egg is, itwould be impossible for you to unravel the mystery of the commonplace earthlyfood in front of you. A scrambled egg doesn't look anything like its origins;there's especially no way for you to have guessed it came in a shell and theegg came from a chicken. I don't care how much time and energy you put intosolving the mystery and the origins of your scrambled egg and it makes nodifference how smart you are; you just couldn't solve the mystery using onlythe information that is in front of you. But once someone knowledgeableexplained all of the facts about eggs the mystery would be gone. With yournewfound knowledge you would be able to create omelets, quiche, fried eggs anda gazillion other things with eggs. Even if you were not particularly creativeyou could learn from others who explored the world of eggs and compiled recipesgalore. You too could become an expert if you wanted to.

Marriage is Universally Misunderstood

In our society, in our time,the origins and correct uses of marriage are almost completely lost. The proofof my statement is in the divorce statistics and backed up by what everyoneknows; happy marriages are extremely rare. My statement is also backed up bythe fact that marriage counseling existsat all. Just about everybody gets married so logic tells us it should be themost understood thing there is. Instead, you could get more contrary andcontradictory advice about marriage from those who are married than anythingelse people participate in. Ice skating, driving, mountain climbing, bowling,gardening, you name it; everything else is understood well enough by itsparticipants to create commonly held beliefs that rarely differ from one personto the next. Isn't this true? Why?

Western Psychological Marriage Counseling Usually Leads toMediation (or Lawyers) and Divorce

The problem with westernpsychological marriage counseling lies in its limitations and refusal toacknowledge the spiritual side of mankind. Man is spiritual, psychological andphysical. But western psychological teachings try to encompass our spiritualaspect as being merely a part of our psychological. For this reason a dulytrained Freudian psychologist looks in the wrong places for the source ofmarital problems. Going back to the scrambled egg analogy, they are looking atmarriage without understanding its spiritual foundation and form; it isimpossible for them to make heads or tails of what is going on in a troubledmarriage and so they usually end up referring their desperate clients to a divorce mediator orfamily law practitioner; it is the best they can do.

If it Doesn't Look Simple You're Probably Missing the Point

God invented marriage foreveryone, not just for a few chosen special people. He knows that some of usare smart and others are less intelligent; He knows some of us are intellectualwhile others are emotional; He knows some of us lie through our teeth whileothers are straight as a rail. He made marriage for everyone and He made therules simple and easy to follow. If your marriage is not having success it isbecause you are not following the rules. If you're not following the rules,which are designed to bring great happiness and are therefore easy to follow,it means you don't know them. Read my LessonsFor A Happy Marriage; that is the best advice I can give you. I have laidout everything you need to know in order to have a very successful and happymarriage; and I pray you do.