Marriage Counseling won't Create Intimacy in your Marriage

If yourmarriage is lacking intimacy and you go to a psychologist for marriagecounseling, you will be very disappointed. A quick look at divorce statisticswill show you the reality that marriage counseling usually leads to anappointment with either a mediator or a divorce lawyer.

The "Art" of Marriage Counseling is Primitive andDangerous

Before 1940, aperson was statistically better off not going to a doctor if they suffered fromany one of countless maladies. Doctors didn't have much to work with in thosedays and the term "practice medicine" describes exactly what theydid. In the early 20th century almost anyone could start a medical school andthe resultant batch of medical doctors was pathetic. These days a medicaldoctor is highly trained and very well educated. They come out of medicalschool knowing many cures for many diseases, all of which are based onextensive scientific testing. When you visit a doctor, your symptoms arediagnosed and you are given specific cures as well as extensive informationregarding whatever disease you may have.

Although notyet perfect, the modern medical community is relatively very reliable and savesmillions of lives. But the guiding practices that have made modern medicine amiracle of the 21st century are nowhere to be found in the schools of westernpsychology. Contrarily, western psychology is primarily theoretical and drawsits ranks from those who are themselves afflicted with psychological problems.Many of us have vivid memories of classmates who were attracted to the field ofpsychology; none were capable of the rigorous effort required to become amedical doctor.

On the otherhand those who started out in the medical field as doctors and completed theirstudies in psychiatry almost always approached their studies clinically ratherthan theoretically; they are known by the M.D. following their name. I am notaware of any marriage counselors who have that extensive training nor wouldthat kind of training be of any use to those who suffer in marriage.

The individualswho become marriage counselors are never spawned from the medical community. Itis very unfortunate that the term "doctor" is commonly applied toboth medical practitioners and marriage counselors because it creates theillusions that they have the same educational background, are both healers, andare both scientific in their approach.

Marriage Intimacy comes from a Simple Understanding of DeepPrinciples

The truth ofthe matter is that the field of psychology has almost no business gettinginvolved in marital counseling. The proof of this statement is in theindisputable fact that marriage counselors suffer the same rate of divorce aseveryone else; they obviously don't know more than anyone else about marriage.

Intimacy inmarriage is one of the ultimate goals married couples aspire to. Along with thegoal of raising healthy children, which creates tender security, the livingintimacy found in a well developed marriage brings contentment and joy. Thecraving for the holy goal of intimacy is common if not universal, butattainment is rare. Our culture and society has completely missed the pointabout intimacy and has devalued it into some sexual connotation unfitting forthe true love found between soul mates.

In order totruly find love and intimacy, one must go beyond the psychological realms anddive into the spiritual heart. Love itself is spiritual by nature and cannot becognized intellectually; it must be felt in the heart. Those who mistakenlyconfuse passion for intimacy experience nothing more than fleeting pleasures.But those who open their hearts and practice giving unconditional love to theirsoul mate find fulfillment of their grandest dreams.

Through simpleand concise steps I have brought many couples the knowledge they needed toexperience intimacy in marriage. I pray that you too realize your sweet dreamsof marital bliss.