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Posted on December 3, 2007 by James Walsh | Posted under Divorce
Myths of Divorce
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So far as the social history is concerned, divorce happens to be a very recent social phenomenon. Still, it is as much susceptible to popular ideas and views and over the years has developed some myths of its own. In this article we will try to analyze some myths associated with divorce. 1) Men Cheat on their Wives more than Wives Cheat on their Husbands It has often been held that men cheat on their wives more than wives cheat on their husbands. This opinion tends to have somewhat gender-biased inclinations. It owes its origins to the times when social norms were highly skewed in favour of men and engaging in extra marital affairs was considered to be a social taboo in case of women. In the contemporary social milieu, things tend to be very different. The latest research has shown that 60 percent of married men and 40 percent of married women are likely to get involved in some sort of extramarital affair in their lives at one time or other. Such statistical data clearly indicates that women are also to a great extent susceptible to amorous temptations. The current opinion pertaining to feminine physical desires has changed a lot. Nowadays women are considered to be almost as justified in seeking physical gratification as men. The arcane morality of associating a woman's honour with her chastity has undergone a stark change. With current social norms being relaxed in favour of women, granting them the same physical freedom of their male counterparts, women are almost as much eligible and prone to infidelity as men. 2) Women do not Usually Want to get Divorced and Regret it Later if they do Most of the people and usually men tend to hold on to this belief that women always tend to avoid a divorce at any cost and they do regret it if they get involved in one. In a modern context, such belief appears to be purely far fetched and hypothetical. Gone are the days when women used to rely completely on their husbands for their financial sustenance and social identity. As per the latest divorce statistics, in a majority of divorce suits in England, it is women who initiate the proceedings and file for separation. With an increase in the participation of women in the British work force, marriage no longer stands to be the only source of identity for women. They associate with and identify with a lot of other things such as their careers, social service and their relationship with their friends and colleagues. In such a scenario, if a marriage turns out to be lousy, women do not hesitate in seeking their freedom and peace of mind by opting for a divorce. Now days women consider themselves to be very much capable of surviving without male support and approval. 3) Women are More Attached to Children than Men and Can Take Care of them Better If we consider the social setup prevalent in the last few decades, it would certainly be true to assume that women are more attached to children then men and can take care of them better. However, over the years gender roles have undergone a great change and parenting and care giving no longer remains the sole domain of women. Men seem to be more willing to take care of their kids and do choose to help their wives in nurturing and caring for the kids. Somehow men have been able to overcome their masculine constraints that prevented them from acting in a delicate and sensitive way. Now a day we do come across families where fathers have sacrificed their careers to act as primary care givers for their children. On the other side, modern women being busy in their jobs and careers do expect and seek the active participation of their hubbies in doing the usual chores related to kids. In such a scenario, men are almost as much capable of taking care of the kids and do not shy away from expressing their attachment for their progeny. About The Author: James Walsh is a freelance writer and copy editor. If you want to find out more about a solicitor managed divorce see http://www.managed-divorce.co.uk |
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