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Posted on October 24, 2009 by Sam Santana | Posted under Dating
Pick Up Artist Reveals His Secrets
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Here's the unvarnished truth: you find your prospect, approach her, offer your services - in this case your attractive, good-smelling, stylish self - overcome any objections, ask for the order to close the deal, negotiate if necessary, and voila: you're in business. It's that straightforward. But here's the clincher - your prospects will determine your results. Poor prospects = Poor results. Great prospects = Great results. Therefore, the question must now be: where can we find great prospects? Supply, Demand, and the Element of Surprise The best places I've found to pick up women are cocktail bars, closely followed by bar-clubs (by that I mean premises which are part bar and part club), normal bars, then cafés, and then everywhere else. Cocktail Bars I love cocktail bars, I really do. And so do women. Why? It's simple: women love cocktails! And so such bars attract plenty of women, often of good quality. The bars nearly always have a good atmosphere in my experience, especially on nights when live music is playing. Picking-up women in such bars is a certainty - it's as predictable as the sun rising in the East and setting in the West. Bar-Clubs If I'm not having much joy in cocktail bars I'll often go to a bar-club because they attract a lot of women, are open late, have areas where you can sit down with a woman while you are first feeling each other out, and play music (but not so loud that you can't be heard). And they are generally a bit livelier. Normal Bars Normal bars can often prove fruitful too. But if you have a choice I'd always recommend the first two options - especially if you want to sleep with 77 women in 57 weeks. Cafés Cafés are great if you're confident approaching women during the daytime. You'll pick up some of the best quality women this way. Why? The element of surprise is firmly on your side. Women are simply not expecting to be approached in such environments as much. And they'll respect you so much more when you do. Better yet, you have little or no competition. Your only stumbling block will be bedding her there and then. Often I have to take her number and meet her later that evening or the next day and then close the deal. Tip: In all the above destinations, you'll have more success if the premises are not merely an open space and are instead broken-up with tables, chairs, ledges, pillars, etc. as you can innocently get within the vicinity of women before opening them in conversation, rather than having to approach them over a huge open area. Tip: Ideally, there should be enough of these hotspots within a 10-minute walk of each other, so you can move between them throughout the night. If the supply of women is lacking in one - just move on to another. Many of the locations I mention above may mean you have to travel a little further afield than you would normally when you go out, but I would encourage you to make the extra effort. It will pay dividends - and it's just another reason to get that city-centre bachelor pad! Tip: Don't go to clubs. You have to pay to get in. There's far too much competition. You can't be heard properly because of the loud music. And if that's not enough, the element of surprise is definitely not on your side. Women know all too well what single men at clubs are looking for. Everywhere else Everywhere else, inclusive of shops, shopping centres, high streets, supermarkets, parks, swimming pools, beaches, hotel lobbies, aeroplanes, and libraries, are all great places to pick up women. Don't get me wrong, it can be challenging - but very rewarding. Risk-return. The bigger the risk, the bigger the return. The Pareto Principle (the 80-20 rule) The Pareto Principle states that, for many events, roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes - and I can certainly testify to that. I've found that 80% of the women I sleep with come from 20% of the bars I go to. Friends comment that I always go to the same places. And guess why? I ALWAYS pick up women there. Just like a great fisherman knows where the fish are plentiful, a master pick up artist must know where women are in abundance. Tip: Bouncers, bar staff, regulars, 'freshen-up men', etc. will all become friendly towards you once you have shown your face a few times at your favourite hotspots. Your Ideal Prospect(s) Your ideal prospect is a woman on her own. During the course of an evening you will find several hot women on their own e.g. when their friends go outside for a cigarette, or when they go to the toilet, etc. Occasionally, but very rarely, will you find a woman who is out solely on her own (and who is not in the business in a professional way). When this happens it's like finding a bar of gold bullion in the street. Your luck is in. She has come out knowing she's going to get laid tonight, and better yet, she is going to be game for it. I picked up a lovely Mediterranean chick on New Year's Eve once that was out solely on her own. It was an explosive night. However, you're more likely to come across women in two's. This can be ideal when you're out with your wingman. (Most of the 77 women I bedded in 57 weeks were in twos). Women in two's know the score. They are out for a reason. They are much easier to approach, and they are much easier to bed. When you find a woman on her own or two women out together you have found ideal prospects. Threes are acceptable, but anything more than that and you want to move on. Why? When women are in groups of three or more, one woman tends to want to show she can get all the guys, that she is a prize, that she is in control, and as a result she'll want to demonstrate to her friends that she can control you and dismiss you. More guys have been shot down when approaching groups of women than I'd care to imagine. Think about it. They're all out having a good time and some brave soul tries to open one of them. The woman sees an opportunity to demonstrate her worth to her friends, and he can't maintain conversation with 3, 4, 5, 6 women all at once, and so he gets shot down. It's very difficult to open groups of women and bed one of them that night. Tip: If you're out in a group of guys, then approaching a group of women with what I call the 'cluster bomb' technique can be very effective. Just decide amongst yourselves which woman each of you will each talk to and then approach them directly and engage in conversation. Otherwise you will find it nearly impossible to split a group of women, and you can waste a lot of time trying. Your Best Strategy to Approach If you go out in two's yourself it's a lot easier to approach women. They'll welcome you more and are less daunted than being approached by groups of three, four, or five guys in a group. Three's are acceptable. But two's are ideal. You'll have the most success in two's. Tip: You'll have the most success if you and your wingman are of a similar standard in terms of looks. If one of you is butt ugly and the other is an absolute stud, then when you approach two women, one of them will feel she's drawn the short straw. How to Approach Women Do not approach women head-on unless you have to or want to undertake a very direct approach. This can be effective, but only when performed properly. Generally speaking, the most effective strategy to approach women and engage them in conversation which will ultimately lead to sex is to approach them side-on. You want to be standing within three feet of your prospect for at least 10 seconds before opening her. Reason? You want to build intrigue. But you do not want to leave it so long that you chicken out and don't approach her. Remember: DELAY IS DEATH in this situation. Count to 10 if you must, but make sure you approach her. It's better to approach her and learn something from the experience than not approach her and never know if you could have nailed her at all. Some PUAs adhere to the 'three second rule', but I'd argue that the three second rule is going to get your arse killed one day. If you approach every hot babe you see within three seconds you will not get a chance to analyse the situation in full. Some women will have boyfriends who won't want you muscling in on their woman, and who may well react violently to your attempts to seduce her. You can normally gauge within no more than a minute or two of scoping what the situation is, anyway. Once you know how many women are in the group, if they're attractive, if they're with guys, if they're on it, and so on, you will be better able to decide how to make your approach and which woman is your primary target. Example Okay, so you're in a bar, you've scoped the place out, and you've identified a couple of hot women standing near the bar. You approach the women side-on, standing within three feet of them - just far enough away so they don't feel uncomfortable by your presence, but close enough so they can hear your opener. You count to 10 if you must, and then say casually, "That accent's a long way from home... Ladies, can I ask, where are you from?" For more visit: my Pick Up Artist website About The Author: Master Pick Up Artist who picked up 77 women in 57 weeks. Originally from London, United Kingdom. For more visit: http://www.mypickupartist.com |
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