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Posted on February 4, 2008 by James Walsh | Posted under   Divorce


Questions You Need Answered Before Getting Married

The decision to wed should be thought through carefully and at length by both the people in a relationship to ensure that their marriage lasts forever. Therefore, it is extremely important to know your future life partner extremely well before you take the plunge.

The Honeymoon Period

Early phases of a relationship almost seem surreal. The couple is always happy and both the people in the relationship are at their best behaviour. Some people cannot get beyond talking mushy things and due to this, they are never able to discuss the major things in life. It would be completely wrong to base your decision about marriage on the basis of this initial phase.

Most people rush into a marriage based on their infatuation and do not even bother to get to know their future spouse well. This can pose huge problems in a marriage because once the hormones start subsiding, the harsh reality sets in.

Compatibility is the Key

The key to a successful future marriage is good compatibility. It is extremely important that you and your future partner talk about the major things in life to assess your current as well as future compatibility. What do you know about your partner's job? What are his or her career plans? If having a double-income household is important to you, this question can make a huge difference to your marriage.

Some people also view career as an integral part of one's life. Spending an entire lifetime with someone who does not care about career or goals related to career can seem quite absurd to such people. Therefore, talking about these issues will give you a good idea about your compatibility of viewpoints.

Questions to Ask Your Partner before Marriage

It is very important to analyse the whole nine yards before jumping into a serious relationship such as a marriage. Marriage requires people to compromise on some or the other thing in life because no two people can think the exact same thing as the exact same point in time.

Therefore, it would be a good idea to sort out your views on the major things in life so that all you have to deal with are the day-to-day issues in a marriage. This will ensure that your marital journey is a smooth one. We have formulated some questions that can help you and your partner ascertain your understanding level and compatibility quotient.

  • Does your partner want to have children? There are people who do not want to have children after marriage because they have their own set of opinions about it. It is important for you and your partner to feel the same way about your future family plans. Whether both of you want to have children or both of you do not want to have children is your decision. However, it is important to know how your spouse feels about the issue to avoid any unnecessary conflicts later in your married life.


  • Do you have religious conflicts? There are times when religious issues can become a point of contention in a marriage. Religion can be a very sensitive topic to discuss. Therefore, it would help if you and your partner know how to discuss about even a sensitive topic such as religion and agree how you will cope with religious differences after marriage.


  • When you and your partner discuss about religion, do you end up in a fight? Can your partner be sensitive towards religious differences? If you are from different religions, how will you and your partner cope with this difference after marriage?


  • Will your partner relocate to another city if need be? People tend to relocate to different cities when their jobs require them to. Is your partner comfortable with the idea of relocating to another city or country? Will your partner's job require you to relocate? How comfortable are both of you with the idea of relocating because of each other?


  • What is Your Partner's Earning Potential? It is extremely important for both of you to know how much each of you earns. Marriage requires you to plan for your future and current finances. Earning capabilities can make a huge difference to your lifestyle after marriage.


  • What are Your Partner's Spending Habits? Some people spend their pay check as soon as they receive it while there are others who hate to spend and cannot enjoy their present because of their stingy attitude. You and your partner should be aware of each other's spending habits to avoid any horrible surprises in the future.


  • How is your partner's personal health? Does he or she have any special medical history? Does your partner have any additional responsibilities that you should be aware of? Does he or she have aging parents to take care of?



About The Author:
James Walsh is a freelance writer and copy editor. If you want to find out more about a solicitor managed divorce see http://www.managed-divorce.co.uk


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