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Posted on October 27, 2009 by Sammy | Posted under Positive Attitude
Stop Complaining: Here's How
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The subjects of these pity-parties typically fall in the category of how 'unfair' something is. They are always on the lookout for new subjects to whine and cry about. We all know people that if there wasn't something to complain about, they wouldn't have a thing to talk about! If being a 'positive person' is your goal getting out of the complaining habit may, at first, be difficult. But being on guard and with mindful attention, you can 'catch' yourself before initiating into a worthless rant of complaining. Here are a couple of tips to help the complainer-in-you take a well-deserved vacation. To start with, only express your grievance to someone who is capable of doing something about it. Are you really tired of increasing utility bills and additional surcharges? Well, your neighbor isn't capable of fixing the situation. Why not direct this concern to someone who is capable of doing something about it. When you 'effectively complain', you're keeping your conversations on a positive track. So instead of adding to your mounting internal hostility and simply blowing off a lot of steam, you might actually get something accomplished if the complaint is directed to the appropriate party! Don't become that person who has nothing to say if they aren't complaining. Another suggestion: for every complaint you have, extend a compliment as well. Doing this will greatly reduce the 'negativity balance' in your emotional system and make a productive and life-enhancing 'deposit' in your well-being account. If it's your habit to routinely shoot off a scathing email moaning and groaning concerning the poor service received, try balancing out the complaining with a word of praise. This complimenting acknowledgment can be a totally different company or person The essential thing is to just do it . If you're not happy with the service you're getting at the restaurant, and you're being quite vocal about your dissatisfaction, try finding something to praise and bring this to the attention of your waitress as well. Give it a shot!! Balance out the energies. Here's something you may begin to notice. If you start the event with a praise versus a complaint, you just might be surprised that the entire experience ends a lot better than you would have imagined. The recipient of the praise is now more receptive towards you and may even try harder to please you. If something does go amuck and you feel you must share your concern, your complaint now falls upon more receptive ears and is more inclined to be made right. Another and maybe a more important benefit of praising before complaining is that you'll actually be looking out for positive things to say! When you're tuned into what's going 'right' instead of what's wrong, your whole mindset has made a shift. Now you're in tune - and watching - for the positive things in life and you may find yourself actively searching for the good in each situation! About The Author: The author's wife believes in making the most out of life, including developing the body as well as the mind. Being a full figure girl, she knows athletic bras assist her maximize fitness sessions. Many active, full-figure women find Enell sport bras to be a major complaint-reducer and positive enhancer to their fitness goals. Learn more at: http://athleticbras.sale-priced.com |
Tags: SELF IMPROVEMENT, COMPLAINING, HEALTHY ATTITUDES
