Why Save your Marriage? - 4 Good Reasons

When people reach the end oftheir emotional and psychological rope they invariably ask if their marriage isworth saving.  Ironically, they alreadyknow intuitively they should save their marriage; they just don't knowhow.  I have never met anyone (whichdoesn't mean they don't exist) who got married with the idea of ending theirmarriage sometime in the future.  Peopleget married to live happily ever after. Why are there so few who do?

We Live in a Very Confused Society

Everyone complains aboutdishonesty.

Even those who sneak into movies without paying.

Everyone complains aboutcrooked politicians.

Even those who take advantage of their situationalpower. 

No one thinks of themselvesas a liar.

Not even those who cheat on their income tax. 

Everyone thinks theirmarriage will work.

Even though the divorce rate is staggering.

The idea of saving yourmarriage is great.  Trouble should createa wake-up call that prompts you to investigate everything and everywhere untilyou find a solution for your marital woes. In the meantime never give up on having a very happy marriage.  You can save your marriage despite the flawsyou find in your spouse or yourself; that is a fact.  Do you think God is so cruel as to createmarriage as a way to find suffering?  Canyou imagine God being so cruel as to create marriage only for those who areperfect?  I didn't believe it and so Isearched for and discovered everything needed to create or fix marriage; andyou can too.

There are a number of goodreasons to save your marriage:

1)    Your children

Your children are notpossessions.  They came into your life asa blessing and a responsibility.  Thevery foundation of a child consists of a united mother and father.  Don't imagine your children will be OK if youdon't save your marriage.  Don't believethe lies society puts forth to rationalize "divorce on demand".

2)    Your future success

When you took your marriagevows they reflected the most serious commitment of your life - to your spouseand yourself.  Giving up is contrary tothe laws of success.

3)    Our society

Families are the unit ofmeasure of any society.  There has been atremendous transformation to our society as a result of the high divorcerate.  There is no reasonablesubstitution for a family-based social order. Each individual has greater importance when he or she is part of asociety of families.  The obviousinsecurities and fears that are strangling our country are the logical resultof divorce.

If your marriage is troubledthere are clear-cut reasons, rarely the ones on the surface.  Like anything else marriage has a naturalstructure to it which must be sustained by correct behaviors.  I have gone into great detail in my book Lessons For A Happy Marriage so thatanyone can understand what it takes to save a marriage, no matter how awful itmay appear to be.  Don't give up and don'tbe demoralized if your current state is one of pain and suffering.  You and your spouse deserve what God hascreated for you to enjoy.